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Pride disguised as humility? 

It is right and good to pray for ourselves; but those prayers should not be selfish. How that can be? By Colin Sedgwick


Prayer

I recently read an interview with a quite prominent Christian. He was asked, among other things, about his prayer life. And he said, “I never pray for myself; I only ever pray for other people.”

I wonder how that strikes you? My first reaction was to feel very small – I’m afraid I couldn’t make anything like the same claim. It led to a bit of soul-searching, a bit of self-questioning. Are my prayers in essence selfish? Do I need to rethink the way I pray?

But then I thought: hang on a minute! Is this man claiming to be better than many examples we find in both the Bible and in Christian history? Better, in fact, than Jesus? Is he right to never pray for himself?

In fact (look out! – confession coming up), I found myself starting to get a bit, ahem, cross, even judgmental. Who does this sanctimonious, super-spiritual creep think he is (you can tell, just in case you don’t know me, that I’m not really a very nice person)? Isn’t saying “I never pray for myself” tantamount to claiming to be superior to us lesser mortals who do?

And I thought, pretty much at random, of Psalm 35. In the first three verses the words “me” or “my” occur five times (I’ll leave you to tot up how many more me’s and my’s there are in all 28 verses). Here’s a sample: “Contend, O Lord, with those who contend with me; fight against those who fight against me. Take up shield and buckler; rise and come to my aid… May those who seek my life be disgraced and put to shame…”

I could have gone for literally dozens of other places, not least Jesus’ prayer of agony in Gethsemane and his cry of abandonment on the cross.

The kernel of truth in what that man said is obvious enough: something is very wrong if we only, ever pray for ourselves. Of course! I hope none of us need to be told that. But let’s never be ashamed of the fact that we are in a deep, personal relationship with God, and at the heart of that relationship is conversation, dialogue, and dialogue means, among many things, talking to God about the things that excite or trouble or worry or puzzle us. How then can we not pray for ourselves? He is our father; we are his children.

I would sum it up like this: it is right and good to pray for ourselves; but those prayers should not be selfish. How can that be? Here are two suggestions.

First, focus more on holiness than on happiness.

We all want to be happy, of course: that’s natural. But none of us has a right to happiness.

The top priority in the Christian life is to be made more like Jesus, and the fact is that in this slow, life-long, day-by-day process, one of God’s main tools is a dose, large or small, of unhappiness. The bumps, as they say, are what you grow on. If we pray only for our own happiness we are missing the point of life; and we will remain shallow (not to mention deeply unsatisfied) as people.

Second, focus more on usefulness than on personal fulfilment.

Again, there is nothing wrong with being keen, even ambitious, to make the most of the talents and gifts God has seen fit to give us (and these may be things which have nothing at all to do with “religion”). But if we are Christians our chief motive when it comes to “making something of my life” is to be of service to God. The 19th-century hymn puts it perfectly: “O use me, Lord, use even me,/ Just as thou wilt, and when, and where…” Amen!

One of the greatest things the New Testament says about Jesus is this: “Even though he was in the form of God, he did not consider equality with God something to be taken advantage of, but made himself nothing (literally, emptied himself)... Therefore God exalted him” (Philippians 2:7). If we can boil that down and apply it to ourselves: you become somebody when you are happy to be nobody.

Holiness and usefulness… Aren’t these essentially what the Christian life is about? Other things certainly have a claim upon our prayers – health, work, money, family, you name it – but they find their proper places if we keep these key priorities uppermost in our minds.

The Bible tells us that we are to be “spiritually-minded”, yes. But is there such a thing as the sin of super-spirituality? Just wondering...


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Colin Sedgwick is a Baptist minister with many years’ experience in the ministry.

He is also a freelance journalist, and has written for The Independent, The Guardian, The Times, and various Christian publications. He blogs at sedgonline.wordpress.com

 

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